Remembering good times when things go south

In any relationship there will be ups and downs. These are easiest to remember. Then there is a lot of the in-between stuff - the times where there is no high-fiving but also no 12 round match to worry about. Sometimes you fall into a routine and that is not necessarily a terrible thing. However, when routines get interrupted this sometimes opens an ugly door to a potential disagreement that can turn into an argument, usually about nothing. I found myself in this predicament many times in the last month or so. Job situation changes, holiday planning, bpdpod recording delays. These three events have changed the trajectory of a lot of improvements that were in the works. Poe was convinced I was upset with her at times that I was not. She insisted enough that I actually did get mad that she insisted. When we reflect on the actual dialogue and actions, we can see there was no crime. We were doing well. We were doing our version of well. Then we got hit with a couple of curve balls. We have to accept these as an opportunity to build character and showcase our resilience. Poe is a tough one. I am too. Living with someone that has bpd for over two years now, I know the genuine triggers and behaviors. For the most part, I know when to duck, when to parry, when to comfort. Anyways, we still plan to regroup and air more episodes. We've regained our focus. They are in the works. I mean it this time.